Monday, June 27, 2016

Women Deserve Better

Pro-life activist, Ryan Orr, 17, of Manassas, Va, waits holds a silent vigil as he waits for rulings in front of the U.S. Supreme Court on June 27, 2016 in Washington, DC. (Pete Marovich/Getty Images)
Pro-life activist, Ryan Orr, 17, of Manassas, Va, waits holds a silent vigil as he waits for rulings in front of the U.S. Supreme Court on June 27, 2016 in Washington, DC. (Pete Marovich/Getty Image
Today, the Supreme Court made a landmark ruling against women in our country with striking down the Texas law, HB 2, requiring abortion providers have admitting privileges to a hospital within 30 miles of their facility and that abortion clinics have the same health and safety standards as an outpatient surgical facility. The law has several other components that were held up, significantly, acknowledging that a pre-born child can feel pain after 22 weeks from LMP and an elective abortion cannot be obtained due to this reason.

As you probably know, I am unequivocally, unapologetically pro-life, pro-woman, pro-baby, mostly in that order. Yes, I identify myself as having conservative values, both politically and socially, although with the recent things going on in the Republican Party with the presumptive nominee, I no longer consider myself Republican and will not claim that party.

With all that said, this is not a political post. This has nothing to do with conservative v. progressive ideals. This post has nothing to do with my feeling that abortion, in general, especially elective abortion, should be illegal. I will not be discussing this aspect of my pro-life beliefs. If you are reading this and are liberal, please hear me out as someone who probably knows a little more about this subject than you do. I work in a Crisis Pregnancy Center. I speak to women on a weekly basis who are considering abortion and/or are post-abortive. I hear their stories, both about their current pregnancies and past decisions. I hear their trauma, both currently and it the past. I don’t know stats right off the bat but if someone had questions, I would do my best to find that information, but I have firsthand accounts of what abortion is like, of what the doctors and facilities are like because I listen to women who have been there.

I’m going to start with the second part of the ruling,allowing health and safety standards to be sub-standard (see section 4). I use that term, “sub-standard” for a reason. Outpatient surgical clinics have standards for a reason. They perform sterile procedures in sterile environments where, if those standards aren’t followed, their patients could end up with life threatening infections. They may not be regulated by The Joint Commission, who regulates standards for hospitals, but they follow basic health regulations based on Evidence Based Practice for the safety of their patients. (Even CPCs do that, and we’re not ambulatory surgical facilities). Why then, would we want to do less for the women in our country? Why would it be ok to allow the women in our country to obtain a surgical procedure in a place that cannot follow basic health and safety regulations to prevent infection and possibly death for these patients? I know I sound crazy talking about women dying. I do understand that is a rare thing, but please also understand that it does happen. Whether it’s from the direct procedure, bleeding out after the procedure, or from an infection incurred during the procedure. Not following these basic health and safety standards leads to situations like we experienced a few years ago in the Kermit Gosnell trial where his clinic was described as a “house of horrors”, he used unlicensed personnel to dispense medications, he use non-sterile technique and non-sterile equipment, there were blood stains on the walls and patients were given blood stained sheets, to name a few of the offenses. This man was allowed to practice in this way for over 30 years because the state of Pennsylvania did not have basic health and safety regulations for abortion facilities. Women died in his care. Live babies were killed by using scissors to snip their spinal column.  There are other former abortion workers who have come out saying the same thing happens intheir facilities. Why is this ok? Why do we not want the absolute best care for women? I completely understand these basic health and safety regulations would close over half of the abortion facilities in the state of Texas. Am I sad about that? No. But a big reason I’m not sad about that is because these facilities who are not willing to change their health and safety standards to meet the minimal requirements are willing to harm women by giving substandard care rather than make the necessary changes and continue operating. So they should close down if they cannot operate under basic regulations. If they want to be considered medical clinics performing surgical procedures, they should operate by the same surgical standards that Texas has other ambulatory surgical facilities operating under. That only makes sense to preserve the health of the mother in question.

The other issue, regarding the requirements of a physician (see section 2) makes perfect sense. First off, he or she should be a licensed physician. But most importantly, he should have admitting privileges at a nearby hospital because unforeseen things happen. Like I’ve already said, uncontrolled bleeding is a risk from having a surgical abortion, especially in the 2nd trimester. If this happens, the woman needs to go to a hospital and the physician who is overseeing her care needs to be able to admit her and give her history and details of the procedure; that should not be the patient's job who may have to drive an hour to get to an ER that has a specialty in OB-GYN. Again, this is basic care for the woman seeking an abortion.


Women deserve better than what these 5 justices have given her. Abortion should not just be accessible. If it absolutely has to happen, the state should take every possible precaution to make sure her life is not in danger.

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Perez Family Visit

This weekend, our favorite Perez's came to visit. The weekend was loud, wonderful, chaotic, fun and busy. But I wouldn't have traded the time for anything. As I've said many times before on this blog, Brenna is one of my very best friends. It's pretty much mandatory that our kids be best friends too. And luckily, they seem to be beginning that friendship. There's arguments and fighting, of course, but they play well together. It's so fun to watch that friendship form, to watch our kids begin to actually play with each, talk to each other, share with each other, comfort each other when they're sad. And it's great to get friend time with Brenna. We talk most weeks, several times a week, but it's just not the same as visiting over a reheated cup of coffee, or 2 or 3 or 4. Even if we don't end up in Winston next year, I am still holding out for being closer to the Perez's so these times can happen more often. I definitely love having them all here, even in the chaos, it was a blast.
Here's a few of the pictures:

Judah and his best friend

All our kids, minus Jude

He was not my biggest fan, he definitely knew I was not mommy

All the older littles played very well with the younger littles

Victoria finally got a picture with Curtis, right before he ran away to Michael

Curtis' second daddy

Angela playing with her new friend

Angela is pushing "her baby"

Enjoying his cheese puffs




She's a Daddy's girl


Just a little exhausted after all the playing

Curtis did not want to part with the binoculars and flowers. He did reluctantly give them back


The baby's were not very happy. And it's very hard to get 5 littles to all look at the camera




Curtis and Judah were very happy Auntie Brenna left the cupcakes


Sunday, June 5, 2016

Birthdays, Family and Goodbyes

The month of May was crazy busy, so that's why this post is coming now and not then. Isaac took leave again, which was wonderful. I could really get used to him taking a week of leave every month. After a year and a half of not seeing much of him and spending about half our nights away from each other, these April and May leave periods were much needed.
Isaac's family came to visit, which was wonderful as usual. I love seeing our boys bond with family, especially when they don't get to physically be with them very often, it's great to see them having fun, smiling and laughing, and freely giving hugs and kisses. It was a busy week with them here, not quite as we planned. Isaac and his dad spent the week redoing our deck, which was much needed. It's pretty much been a hazard ever since we moved in, nails coming out of it, warped boards and weather worn, splinters all over the place. With Judah refusing to keep shoes on outside, it couldn't have come at a better time and we are so thankful for his dad being willing to help. So most of the week, me and the boys got to hang out with Lisa. We did a few fun outings, the children's museum and the zoo. Mostly, we hung out at home since the boys naps rarely lined up with each other. It's hard to find time to get out of the house when that happens. Thankfully, Lisa was very understanding and enjoyed playing with the boys. Judah was too cute, going right to Lisa as soon as he saw her. He really loved her, which isn't like him. He doesn't go to anyone very well, so it was nice that he seemed perfectly fine with Lisa, gave my arms a break for a bit.
At the end of their trip, we celebrated Judah's first birthday and Isaac's 30th birthday with a cookout with Isaac's friends from work. I've heard stories about these guys for years, but never gotten to meet them. One family, I did meet a few months ago when we went shooting at their place, but the other 2, I hadn't met. It was so nice to finally meet his friends, put faces with names. And after the week of hard work that Isaac put in, it was nice to just get to relax and hang out with my husband. I'm so thankful for this past year of Judah's life and am always thankful to celebrate a birthday with Isaac, especially considering the first 2 he had, we celebrated on the phone due to deployments. I know he liked having an actual cake this year, rather than a very disgusting cake in a jar (never try that if your going to send a gift overseas, apparently they don't travel well).
That night, after Isaac's friends left, I got a text that my oldest and one of my dearest friends dad had passed away. Karlie was my best friend growing up and her family was my second family, her house my home away from home. So as soon as I could get me and the boys packed on Monday, we got on the road and headed to NC, I had to be with my best friend. It was a long week, and definitely not an easy week, but I am glad I was able to go, glad I was able to be with Karlie and say goodbye to her dad. It was pretty awesome to hear about the life of Thom, how much he loved his family and loved Jesus. I learned things I never knew, and definitely know I was blessed to know him.
Since then, we have been trying to get back to our normal routine. I've gone back to my normal one day a week at the clinic and had some difficult days, hard and sad patients. And I know the closer to going on staff I get, that will be more of my reality as Satan tries to stop me from doing what God wants, but my God is much bigger than that, so I will follow him and not give in to Satan's tactics. Isaac has been on his more difficult shifts so we haven't seen much of him. And this past weekend, he took Curtis to Oklahoma for the weekend to go to a wedding reception, so it's been just Judah and me, which has been a nice little break. But I am ready to have my boys back and ready to finally get back to a normal routine.
Here's a few pictures from the month:
My Mother's Day picture with my boys

He really did love playing with Lisa

I love the giraffes, they may be my favorite


Curtis helping Isaac with breakfast, he loves to make pancakes



Isaac teaching Curtis how to use the drill

Curtis loves playing with Isaac tools

Judah opening his birthday gifts

Curtis wanted to eat his sandwich in their new tent

Curtis helped me make frosting for the cake, then he loved licking the beater clean

Curtis helped Isaac open his gifts

These are the traditional Norman pictures, every Norman kid has had this picture taken.